Sub-space Session
It's vital to ensure both physical and emotional safety during a session. When we meet, I'll outline important safety measures to prevent injuries. Kinbaku/shibari ties vary in risk; some are more hazardous, especially those involving suspensions with significant weight on the arms. The most common serious injury is radial nerve damage, which could limit hand mobility for hours or even weeks. However, with proper guidance on checking hand functions and immediate adjustments, the risk is minimized.
Beyond physical safety, we'll discuss personal boundaries, areas off-limits for tying or touching, and other concerns (I will email you an intake form where you can describe your desires). While I prioritize your safety, BDSM scenes inherently carry risks. When you agree to a session, you acknowledge these risks and the importance of open communication. Everyone involved is expected to follow:
RACK – risk-aware consensual kink.
PRICK— Personal Responsibility of Informed Consensual Kink
While no session is entirely risk-free, open dialogue significantly reduces potential issues.
Sensuality: Exploring Safely
Tying can be erotic for many, but it's tailored to individual preferences. Many find pleasure in the restraint and slight pain, but the session's tone, whether sensual or not, is up to you. I never engage in penetration with any participant at any time. I avoid erogenous zones until given explicit consent, usually before a session. Ultimately, the experience hinges on your comfort and our mutual agreement. I reserve the right to end a scene at any moment, for your safety or mine.
Many enhance the tie with fetish elements like blindfolds, clamps, or candlewax. Others prefer just the ropes. Regardless, we'll discuss boundaries beforehand, and you have the freedom to withdraw consent during the session if you're uncomfortable. A form will be e-mailed, a sort of menu, where you can select what you are interested in and can consent to. Anything not on the menu can be discussed, at an extra cost.
PTSD and Kink
If you have PTSD/CPTSD or believe a kinbaku session might trigger trauma, please do not book a sub-space session with me. I'm not trained in trauma response and can't responsibly handle such situations. This also applies to those with anxiety, phobias, or potential triggers. Please prioritize our safety by avoiding bookings if there's a significant risk, as managing such events with unfamiliar individuals is a significant responsibility.
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I do not allow friends or lovers to watch me work. It is distracting and a dynamic that can impact my empathy. I do not allow photos at any point during the session for any reason. If you photograph me, the session will be terminated.
if you are a content creator: you should email me with a separate project request.
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The kink menu I send in the email as a part of the intake form shows what I offer as additional facets of our scene. Anything not on the list you want to try, don’t hesitate to ask, but there will likely be an additional fee.
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If you need any particular type of aftercare please let me know. I will not offer too much physical contact without it being requested as some people prefer distance while ‘landing’ from a scene.
Some gentle touch, light massage ( I am an LMT), soothing words, hugs are all open if you request them before a session (or after).
You are responsible for your own mental health in the days that follow. I am open to receiving emails if you have any insights you wish to share.